The New BHP

The New BHP

I feel like Stephen Hawkins, sitting on an event horizon, as I discover and name an emerging phenomena I've termed 'BHP' - Black Hole People.

Like cosmic black holes, I've observed a marked increase in recent years of BHP who I have encountered in a variety of situations.

The most common area for encountering BHP is in business.

Consider this scenario: A long-term client with which you have a solid relationship, appoints a new manager who contacts you with an urgent request. You drop everything, visit site (which in my case is a good 90min drive), meet the manager, discuss the project, and understand it has to be delivered by 'yesterday'. You head back to the office, make all the necessary enquiries, collect prices, compile a quotation (which takes about a week), all the while advising the customer out of professional courtesy that you're 'progressing'.

Finally the proposal comes together, with your days of thinking, discussing, analysing, slicing and dicing, articulated on electronic paper and you press the 'Send' button.

.... silence.

After 4 weeks of polite phone messages, emails, voice-mails, calling the managers' colleagues to see if he is still alive .... more silence.

Or you're looking for a job, see several ads with various agencies (or the HR department itself), and you fire off that much loved and refined CV that articulately explains why you fit all the published criteria and would like them to be your next employer.

.... silence.

After repeated emails, messages and not even a 'we'll get back to you', you give up, disheartened.

Or a 'friend' who gets busy, makes repeated promises to call you, meet you, have coffee/dinner/brunch with you, yet after weeks of leaving messages via various media makes it clear through any lack of response that you don't rate the 5 seconds (out of 86,400 in a day) that it takes to type, "Flat out, call you in 2 weeks", and you're left wondering if it's time to change your deodorant or mouthwash.

Or the peer at work who has been there much longer than you, whose urgent advice you need to progress a deal for the company you both work for, yet after emailing and calling and leaving messages, simply refuses to respond.

If any of these situations ring a bell, you can be sure BHP are active in your life!

The very nature of BHP is that like a black hole, nothing, zip, zero, nada, comes back, so there's no opportunity for dialog and therefore no opportunity for any form of relationship. There is no solution other than to do a u-turn and get on with Life, before you too get sucked in.

However, in the wise words of Ghandi about 'being the change', there is something you can do and that is a mantra that has served me exceptionally well: always respond. 

I don't mean to the penis enlargement spam or the lottery-winning or Nigerian money scams, however if, for example, someone sends you a well composed, intelligent and respectful email offering you a service that you don't need, a simple and polite 'no thanks' does several things:

1. It closes the loop and lets the sender know you have read, understood, evaluated and concluded they can be of no assistance
2. They move on to the next client and don't waste their valuable time
3. You don't hear from them again and so don't waste your valuable time
4. The sender is so used to being ignored that a response is seen as a mini-miracle and so the sender is grateful
5. You receive their gratitude whether you know it or not

 The corollary of not responding is:

1. You scan the first email, dismiss it and delete it
2. They send you a follow-up email which you scan then delete
3. Depending on their tenacity you may get several more ...
4. They get frustrated by your lack of response and whether you know it or not, you receive their frustration
5. You get frustrated by them continuing to send you emails that you don't want!

We might think that we don't have the time to respond, yet somehow we find many times the time to scan and delete on multiple occasions, than it would take to respond. 

False economy really.

And when it comes to CVs, some words of caution: you never know when you might meet the author who may one day be interviewing you!

So be the opposite of a BHP by responding. You'll feel happier within yourself, have more time, be regarded as respectful and gracious, be remembered and receive much gratitude. 

And to all the BHP reading this: you don't have to be a BHP until you disappear down your own rabbit-hole. Your disregard for other people may come from feeling that you are the centre of the Universe, but rest assured there are real black holes out there that are (see previous post!).

Simply respond, give back, do something different, and your dark days will be over.   

You never know, you might even transform into a Sun!

Is God a Singularity?

Back in the mid-nineties while at an experiential workshop, I was guided in a deep meditation to open my Heart and imagine a thread connecting my Heart to the centre of our Sun, from which another 'dimensional' thread would lead me to a Central Sun. My experience of this place and the sense of one-ness, has never left me and it was the first time I had heard the term Central Sun.

From this point on my Teacher referred often to "The God Of The Central Sun Where All Is One", a space/place of unified wholeness where duality ceases to exist.

He therefore concluded that the 'God' we refer to in a patriarchal sense as Father God, must in this dualistic existence therefore have a balance - a Mother God. So Mother/Father God, or Father/Mother God, were used interchangeably to describe the dualistic God of this existence, while The God Of The Central Sun denoted the God of unity.

Imagine my surprise when years later on a training course in a particular healing modality, the presenter mentioned our Sun as having a consciousness, referred to as The Solar Logos, a consciousness which transmutes energy from the Central Sun.

Mmmmm, I thought ... interesting! 

Then I read José Argüelles' book on the mathematics behind the Mayan calendar (The Mayan Factor). It's a complex book and I'm not sure that all his views stack up, but what did fascinate me was that the Mayans apparently referred to a Central Sun which they called Hunab Ku or Supreme God.

We've all heard about the 21 Dec 2012 solstice yada, yada, yada .. but what Argüelles claimed is that on this date, a very special alignment happens.  You see the Earth, in its orbit around the Sun wobbles around its own axis, which is called a precession, and once every 26,000 years or so, the Earth's axis points directly to the centre of our galaxy, to Hunab Ku.

The Mayans had no wheels, metal tools or other signs of what we might call 'civilised' society, yet they had a mathematical model of planetary and solar movement so astounding, that they could predict with accuracy when the Earth would be in this unique alignment.  On this date their calendar also 'resets'.

More recently physicists have discovered that right at the centre of our galaxy (which we call The Milky Way) is a supermassive black hole. (It is now widely accepted that the centre of nearly every galaxy contains a supermassive black hole, with the latest discovery being one in a galaxy called NGC4889 which is estimated at 21 billion solar masses or the weight of 21 billion of our Suns!)

Physicists also theorise that the mass drawn into each of these supermassive black holes becomes infinitely dense and infinitely small, eventually disappearing in a mathematical construct called a singularity. In this place all the laws of physics (as we know them) break down.  No one yet understands or knows where all the matter drawn into these supermassive black holes actually goes!

The name singularity is and of itself an indication that duality cannot exist, so is this a place where all the laws of our dualistic world reach a point of unification? 

The Mayans called it Hunab Ku, my Teacher called it The Central Sun long before the supermassive black hole was discovered, and now physicists confirm that something beyond our laws of physics sits at the very Heart of our galaxy.

I would think that a space/place of unity, where duality cannot by definition exist, would be a singular place, beyond the laws of this dimensions' physics, and therefore a probable place for a unified existence.

I was fortunate to experience the feel of such a place and it felt like Heaven!

Is God a Singularity?